Everyone wants to be loved unconditionally. There’s a side to me that I project to the world, which is easy to love; and then there’s the other side that is maybe not so lovable that I hide from the world. The part that I hide is the side that I want the person that I’m with to love and accept. It’s easy to love the lovable side. But REAL love is when you love someone for all of who they are, the bad and the good. You don’t see it as a problem or something to be fixed or changed. You love them for their amazing qualities; why everyone else loves them, and you love them for their flaws; the side they hide from the rest of the world.
— Dr. Henry Cloud from Necessary Endings